Hi Tim, I found your presentation at trace moving and thoughtful.
My dad died in 2000. I was able to spend the last two weeks of his life with him. And we were able to say goodbye to one another. But I have nonetheless been somewhat haunted by his death for the last four years. I see my own death in his. I feel like I'm totally doomed.
Dad was a bit off it in about the last 4 days of his life. He talked a lot about 'going home'. This became literal talk on his part rather than figurative talk. At points, 'home' was where he lived when he was a kid. 'Home' is haunting. It is less a physical place than a state of mind, it seems.